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I'd like to talk to those of you who tend to bottle things up inside. There are 3 major reasons why we do this rather than speaking our mind.

1. fear of confrontation
2. we can't be bothered
3. we think our needs are not as important

Limes and Bananas don't like confrontation. We can't stand raised voices and accusing looks and questions that we only think of the answers to after the fact, when we have time. It can make us really upset, something not understood by the other Fruit personalities who can move on quickly from any sort of confrontation. We amplify the potential scene in our minds until we're convinced it's easier to say nothing.

Limes are more likely not to be bothered. Because they formulate their arguments carefully, they know that by the time they say what they want to say, other Fruit have finished and gone. Besides, they reason, the others all think they're right anyway, so what's the point in arguing?

Lastly many of us feel that other people have more important needs than us. They earn more or have a more important job. This often comes from a good place of caring about others, but too much of it and your self esteem starts to suffer.

Benefits of Bottling Up

1. No confrontation

Benefits of Taking the Lid Off

1. People (Apples) respect you for speaking your mind - seriously!
2. People know what you're thinking. They're not mind readers and the more self focused Fruit can't guess you are upset
3. You'll get what you want more times than you think
4. You'll feel empowered
5. Open communication allows everyone to have an equal say in what happens
6. You won't make yourself sick
7. You'll worry less
8. You will sleep better at night

Maths has never been my strong point but even I can see which list to choose.